Friday, April 29, 2011

Princess of Wales, Dianna

Today was Prince William's wedding. It was such a beautiful wedding. Notably absent was his beautiful mother the late Princess of Wales, Diana. One wonders what impact her presence must have had on the wedding had she been alive and graced this event. I am sure about one thing that she would have "stolen" the spotlight from Kate like she did from her husband Charles years ago on her own wedding. I remember reading the Newsweek line, "Diana, stop stealing the show.." a reference to her taking all the media attention from Charles. And it continued long afterwards to the dismay of the Royal family.

Diana was not only beautiful but innocent. She was 19 years old when she married Charles. She was soon dubbed Shy Di for her shy and bashful nature. She was the epitome of beauty, elegance, style, grace, sweetness, and courage. She had her feet on the ground yet there was something grand about her. Her touch was human yet it healed many. Her presence was undoubtly so impressive that dignitaries from around the world would fidget in her presence. She was the most photographed woman of the world.

Young Kate may imitate the style and approach of Diana but will always be Kate; not Diana. She may be compared to Diana but she will always trail behind Diana. The reason: Diana came into an enviroment that was stiff and bold. She broke all barriers and traditions that the Royals observed for centuries. She gave the Royals a touch of modernity, a face of benevolence, compassion, beauty, style and grace along with duty as opposed to their stiff upper lip tradition(s), practices and appearance. She showed the world that she is a Royal but with a human heart; she cried, lamented and fell public.
So Kate can do good things, maybe better but she has to remember that she owes it to Diana who paved the way for her.

Diana, we miss you and today on your son's wedding you were being missed even more......May you find the solace, happiness and freedom that you deserved... Rest in peace!!

Thursday, April 28, 2011

When Death Resides Within

Death is inevitable and is part of Nature's cycle of Life. It signifies decay and the end of Life. But in our lifetime we experience death many times.

The heart is like a plant; it gets its nourishment from the outside and is watered and pruned by the actions of those that love you. If your surroundings are sunny as required for happiness, the heart grows into a beautiful healthy plant. It will withstand the storms and the rains. It will remain fresh and will distribute its positive energy around itself. But too much of anything can hurt the heart too. If there is too much water, sunshine and nourishment it will burn and corrupt the plant. That is when we see a person become arrogant or self conceited because he received too much attention. Or when a person receives too much love, he may misuse the attention and become spoiled. Likewise a lack of nourishment will result in weaknesses like a person not receiving the attention deserved, will become lost and hopeless.

For the good heart to flourish, a balance is necessary in everything. It should receive what it needs in correct amounts. Once the roots become firm, it can withstand torrents of rain, storms and hail yet never lose ground. At different stages of life even when the tides are high, the strong one at heart will adjust the sail to accommodate the winds and sail peacefully. That is why it is important to nourish the heart.

Different people in our lives provide the sunshine, nourishment and water for our inner growth. These are people that matter to us and we love them. When this happens we see the best of that person. We see it through the face and the body and then through the actions. But if the heart does not receive its nourishment, it dies. That is when we let Life walk out and Death move in to dwell within us. The doors of every heart experiences this unfriendly knocking by Death. At times we give up and open the doors wide open for Death to enter triumphantly. Thus despair, hopelessness and sadness reserve rooms in the heart.

I've read blogs, articles and books that show ways to revive yourself... your heart, but it doesn't always work. I don't know what works as each time Death walks into any heart one tries to evict it through one thought or another. A time comes when there are no more positive thoughts left that can help bring sunshine to a darkened heart. Such a person doesn't care about what makes others happy, nor do they care about their own actions or how miserable they can be towards themselves and towards others. But is it their fault or is it the water, sunshine and nourishment not being provided to them that allows them to be that happy person. One cuts, cuts and cuts to pieces their desires, wishes, aspirations and dreams with every sour experiment and have the bits thrown away. They have no more wishes and desires left that can be discarded. Thus they allow death to dwell inside.....

"Get busy living or get busy dying..." Andy Defrense (Shawshank Redemption). Get busy with something and sweat yourself in and out by achieving that (goal). A good friend once said, "Children, good friends and goals can fight the emptiness and darkness from within."

Tuesday, April 26, 2011

Where Do I Go..?

"When I talk of the East, he talks of the West. When I talk of the South, he talks of the North. When I want to run, he wants to walk. When I want to talk, he wants to sleep. And the list goes miles long.
Sometimes I wonder which direction to look in that will allow us to synchronize our views and our thoughts."

      My friends words reiterates in my mind. I have heard this so many times. I have started to believe this has become the norm of almost every relationship. Some people walk off and enter new relationships yet some choose to stick with this pale relationship due to kids, a binding responsibility. Some may not choose to stay because of the kids but because of other responsibilities that pose as huge risks and challenges or social norms and traditions placed upon a marriage in a society much different than the West.

       It is important for a Man to compliment his woman and vice versa. Regardless of what others think, it is the thought and consideration of the partner that really matters. I once overheard a conversation between a nurse and a patient. The nurse asked the lady what her height was. The lady answered with ambiguity "5.6'' or 5.8'' or ... I don't know exactly." The nurse looked at her and said, "you know I think your partner should tell you and then only then you will remember.."
      I thought about what the nurse said and then realized it is true. If the partner ever noticed you, you would know more about yourself than the mirror tells you every time you look at it. It is not your eyes that always sees you effectively. If the partner appreciates you or what you do, you don't need a mirror at all because your mirror is your partner; he/she tells you what you are.

     Appreciation goes a long way. It is an essential ingredient in any relationship. Whether you deal with kids, your own or not, your partner, your friends etc all fall under this spectrum of hungry for attention and appreciation. A kind word does magic. So try praising someone, anyone. You will see improvements in the overall attitude. Lets hope someone will do the same for you!!!!