Princess of Wales, Dianna

Today was Prince William's wedding. It was such a beautiful wedding. Notably absent was his beautiful mother the late Princess of Wales, Diana. One wonders what impact her presence must have had on the wedding had she been alive and graced this event. I am sure about one thing that she would have "stolen" the spotlight from Kate like she did from her husband Charles years ago on her own wedding. I remember reading the Newsweek line, "Diana, stop stealing the show.." a reference to her taking all the media attention from Charles. And it continued long afterwards to the dismay of the Royal family.

Diana was not only beautiful but innocent. She was 19 years old when she married Charles. She was soon dubbed Shy Di for her shy and bashful nature. She was the epitome of beauty, elegance, style, grace, sweetness, and courage. She had her feet on the ground yet there was something grand about her. Her touch was human yet it healed many. Her presence was undoubtly so impressive that dignitaries from around the world would fidget in her presence. She was the most photographed woman of the world.

Young Kate may imitate the style and approach of Diana but will always be Kate; not Diana. She may be compared to Diana but she will always trail behind Diana. The reason: Diana came into an enviroment that was stiff and bold. She broke all barriers and traditions that the Royals observed for centuries. She gave the Royals a touch of modernity, a face of benevolence, compassion, beauty, style and grace along with duty as opposed to their stiff upper lip tradition(s), practices and appearance. She showed the world that she is a Royal but with a human heart; she cried, lamented and fell apart...in public.
So Kate can do good things, maybe better but she has to remember that she owes it to Diana who paved the way for her.

Diana, we miss you and today on your son's wedding you were being missed even more......May you find the solace, happiness and freedom that you deserved... Rest in peace!!

Where Do I Go..?

                                                         
"When I talk of the East, he talks of the West. When I talk of the South, he talks of the North. When I want to run, he wants to walk. When I want to talk, he wants to sleep. And the list goes miles long.
Sometimes I wonder which direction to look in that will allow us to synchronize our views and our thoughts."

      My friends words reiterates in my mind. I have heard this so many times. I have started to believe this has become the norm of almost every relationship. Some people walk off and enter new relationships yet some choose to stick with this pale relationship due to kids, a binding responsibility. Some may not choose to stay because of the kids but because of other responsibilities that pose as huge risks and challenges or social norms and traditions placed upon a marriage in a society much different than the West.

       It is important for a Man to compliment his woman and vice versa. Regardless of what others think, it is the thought and consideration of the partner that really matters. I once overheard a conversation between a nurse and a patient. The nurse asked the lady what her height was. The lady answered with ambiguity "5.6'' or 5.8'' or ... I don't know exactly." The nurse looked at her and said, "you know I think your partner should tell you and then only then you will remember.."
      I thought about what the nurse said and then realized it is true. If the partner ever noticed you, you would know more about yourself than the mirror tells you every time you look at it. It is not your eyes that always sees you effectively. If the partner appreciates you or what you do, you don't need a mirror at all because your mirror is your partner; he/she tells you what you are.

     Appreciation goes a long way. It is an essential ingredient in any relationship. Whether you deal with kids, your own or not, your partner, your friends etc all fall under this spectrum of hungry for attention and appreciation. A kind word does magic. So try praising someone, anyone. You will see improvements in the overall attitude. Lets hope someone will do the same for you!!!!